With over 1,000 subscribers of all non-Borderline persuasions; BPs in recovery welcome. Very active.
You can choose to read the messages on the web site so that your emailbox doesn't overflow. Registration at Yahoo required to post.
new! The Oz Cafe
"A secluded place where NonBP WTO listmembers can stop in to enjoy a frothy capuccino, a slice of their favorite pie and the good company of other NonBP WTO Ozzies." Registration at Yahoo required to post.
MiniWTO
The same as WelcomeToOz, but a smaller, tighter group. Registration at Yahoo required to post.
BPD411
Great supportive list. NonBPs only. Registration at Yahoo required to post.
Iron Star board for NonBPs
NonBPs only; also has a password-only section. A new supportive board with growing membership.
"This board is recovery-focused for (non-BPDs) in relationships with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) partners, family members and friends. It is focused for those with the desire to change the situation and seek flexible solutions, and who are ready to make a transition to later stages. Anyone who comes by is welcome to add their own support, guidance and understanding. It's all about helping others and going along your road, knowing you can reach out when you need it."
Registration with EZBoards required to post.
Axis II e-group
NonBPs only
A new group for those wishing to discuss the effects and ramifications of the Cluster II PD diagnosis. Has a philosophical/spiritual (but nicely irreverent) emphasis. Registration at Yahoo required to post.
Land of Oz
An alternative spin-off of the WTO lists, very explicitly non-Borderlines only. Registration at Yahoo required to post.
BPD Family Support Board
General board for anyone with a loved one with BPD. Tends to run to partners who are leaving/have left their relationships with a Borderline spouse. Registration with EZBoards required to post.
WTO At Work
For those having to deal with BPs/NPs in the workplace. Registration at Yahoo required to post.
Cathryn Bond Doyle, author of the popular Where to Draw the Line: How to Set Healthy Boundaries Every Day, runs a Relationships and Self-Care Message Board for those interested in feedback on setting boundaries. Not BPD-specific. No registration required; very easy to access.
Nineveh Support Forum
"Nineveh is a support group for targets of workplace bullying and/or mobbing and those in toxic work environments. Its purpose is to validate the target and offer practical suggestions and guidance in the fight against work abuse. Nineveh is a US based group, but all are welcome on this forum."
~highly active support group!
British BPCarers
NonBPs only
Regional support, lots of good droll English humor. Registration at Yahoo required to post.
also see my page of: International Resources
The NonBPD Sanctuary
a yahoo! club. As of August 2002, not very active. No registration required to post.
Families of the Mentally Ill
Registration with Delphi required to post.
Families of those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder
OUCHHH
Online support list for victims of verbal/emotional abuse. Registration at Yahoo required to post.
Moderated by Dr. Irene of Dr. Irene's verbal abuse website
Men-D: Support Group for Guy Victims of Verbal/Emotional Abuse
Registration at Yahoo required to post.
Family Board for Loved Ones of those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Registration required to post.
I Am Responsible
"This is a list for those in advanced stages of recovery from abuser or victim or other codependency/addiction-related problem. This list supports YOUR personal power and taking responsibility for all that you are! Moaning & groaning not allowed." Registration with moderator required to post.
Dr. Bob's Psycho-Babble Message Board
A fabulous, extremely active message board for all discussion of experiences relating to psychopharmaceuticals. Run by a reputable, practicing psychiatriy professor at the University of Chicago.
Ask your questions, or just lurk for some information on what others are experiencing. Searchable for specific drugs or drug combinations. No registration required to post.
Mixed Boards for NonBPs and BPs
BPDRecovery.com
Active, healthy site run by a Borderline woman in solid recovery.
Mixed Board topics included, non-Borderlines welcomed. "On the Border" is the BPD-specific section. No registration required to post.
Season Passes
A new section on the BPDRecovery forum for partners (non-Borderline and/or BP) to post about concerns and experiences. Supportive and recovery-oriented for either partner. No registration required.
Borderlines and Nons
Mixed board run by a NonBP/BP couple. Registration at Yahoo required to post.
Open BPD Forum
Mental Health Today's (formerly Mental Health Sanctuary) open forum for Borderlines, clinicians and families. Registration required to post.
Soul's BP and NonBP Shared Board
Run by a BP in recovery. No registration required to post.
Borderline Personalities
For those with BPD, clinicians, and friends. No registration required to post.
Borderline Personality
a yahoo! mixed club. No registration required to post.
Healthy Place.com's Email support list
General support list for sufferers, friends and families. No registration required to post.
We All Understand
"This group is for people who have a depressive disorder, or for people with other problems they may want to talk about."
Depression Clinic's Forum on Personality Disorders
A general forum for everyone. Not terribly active, lots of drive-by newcomers. No registration required to post.
Harvard's Brain Talk Community: Personality Disorders
A general forum for everyone. Not very active. No registration required to post.
Mentalhealth.com's Personality Disorder Bulletin Board
No registration required to post. Very general questions and answers.
tAPir Bulletin Board for Anxiety Disorders
A well-run forum for all sorts of topics relating to anxiety disorders, medications, etc. Great support! No registration required to post.
Partners of BPs
WTOStaying
For those partners committed to staying and working on their relationship with their BP spouse/partner.
This group does not archive its messages, so to participate you'll have to select an email account to receive the messages (set one up for free on yahoo.com or hotmail.com). Then, sign in to the group using this safe email address. Do not select the "read messages online" option; it doesn't work. Select "daily digest" or "email delivery" options.
Season Passes
A new section on the BPDRecovery forum for couples (non-Borderline and BP) to post about concerns and experiences. Supportive and recovery-oriented for either partner.
Shangri-La Lost : the Infidelity Message Board
An active and diverse board. No registration required to post.
Battered Husbands/Boyfriends Support Board
If you're a man who's been battered by your female partner, this is a place to come for support. Registration required to post.
Recovering Codependents of Sex Addicts
Private moderated e-group, not gender specific. Registration with moderator required to post.
WTOwomenonly
Registration with Yahoo required to post.
WTOmenonly
Registration with Yahoo required to post.
Gay/Lesbian/Bisexual/Transgendered NonBPs
Registration with Yahoo required to post.
WTOChristian
For Christian spouses and loved ones interested in discussing this perspective. Registration with Yahoo required to post.
Christian Wives of Addicts
"A 'safe haven' for those wives who just need a place to come and share with those who are going through similar situations." Registration with EZBoard required to post, register with moderator for private forums.
WTOPartnersofNons
For partners of someone with a Borderline ex-partner.
This is a great group, since many partners of NonBPs need a place to kvetch without adding to their spouse's troubles with a BPex. Registration with Yahoo required to post.
Partners of Narcissists
For partners of those on the Narcissistic end of the Cluster B diagnostic spectrum.
N-Magnets Anonymous
"A forum to share information and to gain support and comfort during recovery from relationships with pathological narcissists."
Ex- or Separating/Divorcing Partners of BPs
WTOTransitions
For those making their minds up whether to stay or go. Registration with Yahoo required to post.
WTOParenting
Support for folks in the difficult position of co-parenting with a Borderline spouse or ex-spouse. Registration with Yahoo required to post.
WTODivorcing
Support group for the entire difficult process of divorcing a BP spouse.
This list provides information and support; experienced legal experts post here regularly with free advice. For reasons of legal safety, this group does not archive its messages, so to participate you'll have to select an email account to receive the messages (I recommend setting an anonymous one up for free on yahoo.com or hotmail.com). Sign in to the group using this email address.) Do not select the "read messages online" option; it doesn't work. Select "daily digest" or "email delivery" options.
Keep Your Kids
"For parents who are in a custody fight and want to maximize their chances of getting and keeping custody. "Marriage-saving" advice for those who are seeking to AVOID a divorce and custody battle." Registration with Delphi required to post, but not to read.
Family Wars
An open list for those discussing the issues of difficult custody and divorce cases. Registration with Yahoo required to post.
Fathers are Capable Too
Canadian support for fathers in difficult custody/parenting situations. Registration with Yahoo required to post.
Aussie Family Court support
Dedicated to changing "the current state of the Family Court Law to gain equity for Non-Custodial Parents" as well as to sharing stories. "Realizing that you are not alone sometimes helps to cope with the crap that you end up going through." Registration with Yahoo required to post.
My Battle in the Family Court
by Paul Robinson
New Zealand site with an email support list for fathers battling for custody.
Parents of BPs (Step-Parents, Grandparents also welcomed)
NUTS - (parents Needing Understanding, Tenderness and Support to help their child with BPD)
A number of specialized private email support lists "for parents who are suffering over broken dreams and lives of turmoil; welcome to a place of refuge where beacons of light will guide you to a safe harbor filled with understanding, comfort, and hope."
Registration with the moderator requested in order to join, at: nuts@thgi.org; see details on the web site.
Borderline Tempest for Parents of BPs
A board specifically for parents of BPs. Registration with Yahoo required to post.
Mental Health Sanctuary Parents' Board
Another board specifically for parents of BPs. You may read and post as a guest.
WTOParentsofBPs
Registration with Yahoo required to post.
WTOGrandparentsofBPs
Specifically for grandparents of BPs. Registration with Yahoo required to post.
Off Our Rockers...Grandparents being parents, AGAIN!
Specifically for grandparents raising grandchildren due to difficult bio-parental circumstances. No registration required to participate. Wonderful supportive forum run by Elaine Shelton.
Grand's Place
Specifically for grandparents raising children due to inability on the part of the bio-parent. Very supportive message boards, also for Special Others (aunts, uncles, siblings raising relatives' children)! Grand's holds a chat every night at 9:00pm EST. No registration required to read and post.
Raising Your Grandchildren
As grandparents we may have had no mental, emotional, or financial preparation when we began raising our grandchildren. It can be more than overwhelming. Everything, from needing diapers and formula, an appropriate car seat for the toddler, to dealing with a drug-addicted teenager, may need to be immediately addressed.
This website is designed to help guide grandparents and kinship caregivers in their efforts to raise these children and to find needed resources for the children as well as themselves.
Grandparents' Rights Community Forum
Life on the Border
A very active list for parents of BPs. Registration with Yahoo required to post.
Home Schoolers and Mental Illness
Fabulous new group!
"Homeschoolers and Mental Illness is a new, fully inclusive online support community for those who hs and must also deal with the unique issues surrounding mental illness or biochemical brain disorders -- their own, their children's, or their spouses's.
There are lots of support groups out there for hs'ers of all stripes and needs, but come visit with us for something new.
We know what it's like to struggle with erratic energy and/ or focus in ourselves. To hassle with the stigma that if we simply took better care of ourselves, we'd be just fine. We know how hard it is to offer daily support to our children and to our spouses who suffer from these potentially devastating illnesses and who (in the case of our children) have not been well served, in many cases, by the ps system, or who (in the case of our spouses) can't always be the fully supportive people they'd like to be because they struggle so with their own issues. We know what it's like to do this vital work that we do, day in and day out, with little or no significant, specific support from even other hs'ers in our communities, because they just don't understand. Come share your joys and your sorrows. Let us celebrate your victories, and comfort you in your defeats. Tell us what has worked for you and what has not. There is, at last, a place to come where you can let down your guard and share it all, without fear of judgement, or pity, or worse." Registration with Yahoo! Groups required. Moderated.
Parenting Within Reason: Relief for Hurting Parents
Great online forum for parents of difficult children, recommended by a number of non-Borderline parents. Based on the book Relief for Parents by Buddy Scott. The site also offers sample readings from the book and information on local parenting support groups.
Laughter & Survival in BiPolaritaville
"Parenting Bipolar Children. Support Group for Parents and Caregivers of Bipolar (and other behavioral / emotional problem riddled) Kids. Venting, advocacy, laughter and tons of information and links. Share with others who understand what your life is like."
Many of the behavioral issues are identical with Bipolar and BPD -- do check out this great resource, regardless of your child's official diagnosis. The message board has many good topics, such as a "Hospitalization Experience" section.
Parents of Dissociative Children Support Board
Registration with EZBoards required to post. Also has a chat forum.
Time Out for Families
"Parenting a Child with Special Mental Health Needs"
A very supportive group run by a mother of a Bipolar child. No registration required to post.
Parents of Bipolar or at-risk for Bipolar children
"For an open discussion of the joys and challenges of raising a child or teenager with bipolar disorder."
No registration required to post. Special topic forums for dads, media reviews, treatment, etc.
Conduct Disorders Parents' Support Board
No registration required to post.
Attachment Disorder Support Board
For parents of children with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)
RAD is often considered a precursor to BPD, with extremely similar symptomology: read the symptoms here
No registration required to post.
Since BPD is generally not professionally diagnosed until the child reaches 18, this is an excellent source of support for parents prior to that time
[fyi: board lingo: RAD children are referred to as 'radishes', sibling non-RAD children are 'turnips', for sake of brevity]
Another RAD board for parents of younger children with these symptoms. No registration required to post.
RADkid.org
Articles, links and texts for parents of RAD children, run by a couple raising a RAD child. Offers an active support forum for parents of kids with RAD.
Children of BPs
ModOasis
for non-Borderline Adult Children of BPs
~ Highly recommended; excellent supportive group. Registration with Yahoo required to post.
Mental Health Today's Children of BPs Board
for non-Borderline Adult Children of BP Parents. Registration required to post.
Kids of BPD
for teens and adult children of Borderlines. Registration with Yahoo required to post.
Away Above the Chimney Tops
a new group for teen children of BPs and other disordered parents. Registration with Yahoo required to post.
Adults Recovering from Narcissistic Parents
"The family ruled by a Narcissist parent often appears ideal or perfect to the outside world. The truth is that inside the family children suffer at the hands of an abusive parent. These children experiance highs and lows in an emotional rollarcoaster with their Narcissist parents and as adults find it difficult to understand what *normal* is. This group is for adults who grew up in a home with narcissistic parents. It is for adults who are past crisis and seriously wish to make the journey to recovery. It is a safe place for adult children of narcissists to vent their feelings, share their ideas toward recovery, and offer support and advice to each other. It is a place to discover what *normal* feels like."
Registration with Yahoo required to post.
Adult Children of Narcissists (sic)
Online support group for this community; most of the issues are virtually identical to those for adult children of Borderlines. Registration with Yahoo required to post.
Adult Survivors of Childhood Abuse
"Individual or group support program for adult survivors of physical, sexual and/or emotional child abuse or neglect."
Munchausen-by-Proxy Survivors' Network
Support and education for adult survivors of parents who induced or made up illnesses in their childen.
Siblings of BPs
WTOSibling
For adult siblings of someone with BPD. Registration with Yahoo required to post.
Sasian: Support and Information for Sibling Abuse Survivors
Excellent source of information and readings, coping tips, parental recognition and book recommendations for this undersupported group.
SibNet Listserv
The Sibling Support Project of The Arc of the United States is pleased to announce SibNet. SibNet is the first and only listserv for and about brothers and sisters of people with special health, developmental, and emotional needs."
Younger siblings can subscribe to the SibKids Listserv
Kidz Kingdom
A support group for siblings of children with Reactive Attachment Disorder, ages 6 - 18. Registration with moderator required to post.
RAD is often considered a precursor to BPD with extremely similar symptomology. This is a fabulous moderated safe place for kids to let off steam about their siblings; highly recommended
BPD and Other Similar Diagnoses (NPD, DID, Addictions,
etc)
Support for family/friends of those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder
British-based online support group. Registration with Yahoo required to post.
NPD Forum
Support and recovery for anyone in any relationship to someone with Narcisstic Personality Disorder. No registration required to post.
Bipolar Significant Others
A site devoted to family/loved ones of those with Bipolar Disorder (Manic Depression). Great supportive site, much in common with those dealing with BPD. No registration required to post.
Bipolar, Comorbid & Abuse
An active forum for those with Bipolar Disorder plus comorbid disorders and substance abuse problems, as well as family/loved ones. There are sections for BPD, panic disorders & other comorbidities. Registration with About.com required to post.
Dual Diagnosis Support Board
Mental disorder diagnoses + a related addictive disorder
A board for everyone involved: discussions of treatment, issues, etc. No registration required to post.
Dual Diagnosis Message Board
A new board by the popular Winds of Change Bipolar Site. Partners and family welcome. Dual Diagnosis is the diagnosis of a mental disorder combined with an addictive disorder. Remains to be seen how active it becomes. No registration required to post.
In the meantime, visit their Dual Diagnosis page
Significant Others of DIDs (multiple personality) email support group
To join, email the moderator at: "Snuffy"
This support group is linked via the excellent site:
The Significant Other's Guide to Dissociative Identity Disorder (Multiple Personality Disorder)
Excellent! This has got to be one of the more compelling accounts I've ever read. Much of it applies to SOs of BPs, too.
Biological Narcissism -- NPA Personality Theory
A message board for those interested in theories of personality disorders that don't believe it is a mental illness. No registration required.
Victims of Factitious Liars/ Survival After Betrayal
A great support group for folks who have been victimized by someone with a Factitious Disorder, including Munchausens Syndrome (those who fabricate illness and other crises to elicit empathy and support). Registration with moderator required to post.
Primary Abuse Survivors
The Abuse-Free Family of Support Groups
Battered Husbands/Boyfriends Support Board
Abused Guys Support Forum
For male victims of verbal/emotional/physical abuse.
Innocence Lost
Great supportive forum for male survivors of childhood sexual abuse. Has private forums. Registration with moderator required for private forums.
Domestic Violence Survivors' Board
Part of the great The Cop and the Survivorwebsite, run by, you guessed it, an ex-cop and a domestic violence survivor.
Also has boards for survivors of childhood abuse, single mothers and social issues. Great board!
Live Chat for Women in Abusive Relationships
Wednesdays at 9:00 EST: 'Not so sure about this relationship' support chat
Partners of the Abused (Secondary Support)
Secondary Circle Support Group
For friends/families/loved ones of rape and/or abuse survivors.
Male Survivors' Family/Friends Board
Support for men who were sexually abused; special section for family/friends. Special section for gay survivors/Canadian resources/professionals, etc. Great board from www.malesurvivor.com!
Positive Partners of Survivors
A yahoo! club that does not require membership to read the posts. Positive support and discussion specifically for partners of the sexually abused.
Innocence Lost
Great supportive forum for male survivors of childhood sexual abuse. Has private forums and forums for wives/partners/family. Registration with moderator required for private forums.
Partners of Gay Sex Abuse Survivors
Caregivers and Professionals
WTOProfessionals
A brand-new list for clinicians working with BP or NonBP populations in their practice
The list is intended to provide a forum for exchange of ideas, tips, support and experience
Compassion Fatigue List
http://lists.fsu.edu/mailman/listinfo/compassionfatigue
A list for caregivers, emergency responders, health workers and others to let their hair down.
Self-Injury Support For Helpers
Moderated by Jan Sutton, a British counsellor who has extensive experience with the counselling of self-injurers. "A moderated group where members can pool expertise, and receive support for their work with self-injuring clients. For counsellors, therapists and helpers."
NonBP Live Chat Groups:
Tinman's Pub
for non-Borderlines
on IRC Chat DalNet
Folks are usually here from about 7pm to midnight, Eastern Standard Time, USA
A wonderful community moderated by experienced non-Borderlines.
If you are unfamiliar with the way IRC works, or don't want to download the software, go to: http://www.dalnet.com
and join the chat using their web-based java chat server
(it's in a little box on the right-hand side called "Chat now" and has a Guest ID# already filled in)
When the window opens, just type in "/join #Tinman'sPub" without the quotes, hit return, and there we are!
The Healing Path web site (run by a Borderline woman in recovery) has a new moderated mixed chatroom for both Borderlines in recovery and their loved ones/families. Reach it at Healing Path CHAT.
This Page Last Updated: January 15, 2005
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